Ubulili buyingxenye yempilo yomuntu ebonakaliswa ngesethi yezimo zengqondo, ukuziphatha kanye nemizwa ehlobene nokuvusa inkanuko kanye nesifiso socansi. Kuyingxenye ebalulekile yobuyena bomuntu ngamunye futhi kuvezwa kuzo zonke izici zokuphila: okomuntu siqu, ngokomzwelo, kwezenhlalo nezenkolo.
Ubulili buwumthombo wenjabulo, kodwa futhi kuwumthwalo wemfanelo. Lesi yisimo esisondelene kakhulu okufanele siphile ngokuqaphela nangokuzibophezela, kucatshangelwa amalungelo nezidingo zabanye.
Ukuvivinya ubulili kuhilela ukuzihlonipha wena nabanye, kanye nokunakekela impilo engokomzimba nengokomzwelo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ubulili buyisici somuntu siqu futhi esiyingqayizivele, ngakho-ke umuntu ngamunye kufanele athole indlela yakhe yokuphila ngokugcwele nangokugculisayo.
Ubulili noma ubulili
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Kuyini ukusetshenziswa kocansi?
Ukuzivocavoca ucansi kuyisenzo sokwenza izenzo zocansi ukuze uthuthukise noma ulondoloze ikhono locansi. Ukuzivivinya ngokocansi kungahlanganisa noma yimuphi umsebenzi wocansi owenziwa ngenjongo yokuthuthukisa impilo yezocansi, ukuthuthukisa ukuya ocansini, noma ukujabulela nje ukwenza ucansi.
Kuyini ukusetshenziswa kwe-Wikipedia yocansi?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo incike kulokho umuntu afuna ukukwazi. Uyafuna ukwazi ukuthi kuyini ukuzivocavoca kweWikipedia kwezocansi? Noma, uyafuna ukwazi ukuthi kuyini ukuvivinya umzimba ngokocansi?
Ngokuyisisekelo, ukuvivinya ubulili yinoma yimuphi umsebenzi womzimba owenziwa ngenjongo yokuthuthukisa noma ukugcina amandla ocansi. Lokhu kungase kuhlanganise imisebenzi efana nokuzivocavoca kwenhliziyo, ukuqinisa imisipha ye-pelvic floor, noma ngisho nokuzelula. Konke lokhu kuvivinya umzimba kungasiza ukuthuthukisa ikhono locansi ngokwenza ngcono ukugeleza kwegazi nokunwebeka kwemisipha.
Kufanele kube kanjani ucansi?
Ayikho impendulo eyodwa kulo mbuzo, ngoba indlela umuntu ngamunye asebenzisa ngayo ubulili bakhe izoncika ekuthandeni kwakhe, izidingo kanye namagugu. Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bangase bacabange ukuthi ubulili kufanele kube isenzo esiseduze nesithokozisayo esenziwa kuphela nomuntu abanobudlelwane obuseduze nokwethembana naye. Abanye, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bangase bacabange ukuthi ukusebenzisa ubulili kuyindlela yokukhuluma yomuntu siqu nokuthi akudingi ngempela ubuhlobo obuseduze. Kunoma yikuphi, okubalulekile ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uzizwa ekhululekile futhi ephephile lapho enza ubulili bakhe ngokuvumelana nalokho akuthandayo kanye nezidingo zabo.
Uyini umqondo wokusebenzisa ucansi?
Umqondo wokusebenzisa ubulili ubhekisela emcabangweni wokuthi ubulili buyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila futhi kufanele ivezwe ngendlela enempilo nephephile. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ubulili buyisihloko somuntu siqu futhi esiyingqayizivele, ngakho-ke ayikho incazelo "elungile" noma "engalungile" yegama. Ngokuvamile, umqondo wokusebenzisa ubulili usho ukuthi ubulili yinto okufanele ijabule futhi ingavezwa ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene.
Ungabusebenzisa kanjani ubulili ngendlela enempilo?
Ziningi izindlela zokusebenzisa ucansi ngendlela enempilo. Into yokuqala futhi ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba nesimo sengqondo esihle nesinempilo mayelana nobulili. Lokhu kusho ukwamukela ubulili njengento engokwemvelo nevamile yempilo, hhayi into eyihlazo noma ihlazo. Kusho futhi ukuba nombono omuhle ngawe nabanye, nokuhlonipha imingcele engokomzimba nengokomzwelo yakho nabanye.
Ezinye izindlela zokwenza ucansi ngendlela enempilo zihlanganisa:
• Khetha ngokucophelela abantu owabelana nabo ngocansi. Abantu abahlonipha imingcele engokomzimba nengokomzwelo, futhi abathembekile ngezinhloso zabo, yizona zinketho ezingcono kakhulu.
• Yenza ucansi oluphephile. Lokhu kusho ukusebenzisa amakhondomu ngokuqhubekayo nangendlela efanele, kanye nokugwema ukuya ocansini uma kukhona ingozi yezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi.
• Zivocavoce futhi uphile impilo enempilo iyonke. Lokhu kungathuthukisa i-libido nokusebenza kocansi, futhi kunganciphisa nengozi yezifo ezingapheli ezingathinta ubulili.
• Gcina umqondo ovulekile futhi ujabule. Ucansi kungaba isihloko esibucayi, kodwa futhi kungaba mnandi. Ukwazisa ubumnandi nokuhlukahluka kobulili kungakwenza ukwanelise kakhudlwana kuwo wonke umuntu ohilelekile.
Imiphi imiphumela engaba khona yokungalubonisi ucansi?
Imiphumela yokungalusebenzisi ucansi kungaba ngokomzimba kanye/noma ngokwengqondo. Ngokwezinga lomzimba, ukungenzi ucansi kungabangela ukuqunjelwa, ukoma kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, ukuncipha kwe-libido noma isifiso socansi, ukwanda kokucasuka kanye/noma ukukhathazeka, kanye/noma ukukhiqizwa okuphansi kwamahomoni ocansi. Ezingeni lezengqondo, ukungenzi ucansi kungabangela ukudangala, ukukhathazeka, ingcindezi, ukunganeliseki komuntu siqu, ukungazethembi, ukuzethemba okuphansi, kanye/noma imizwa yecala.
Ubulili buba nomthelela kanjani ebudlelwaneni?
Ubulili buthinta ubuhlobo ngezindlela eziningana. Ukusondelana ngokobulili kuyindlela yokubonisa uthando nothando phakathi kwamalungu ombhangqwana. Ukuntula ukusondelana ngokocansi kungaba yinkomba yokuthi kunezinkinga ebudlelwaneni. Ubulili bungaba umthombo wezinkinga zobudlelwane. Izinkinga zocansi zingabangela ukucindezeleka nokucasuka. Uma kungabhekwanga kahle, kungaholela ekungethembekeni noma ngisho nasekugcineni kobudlelwano.
